tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post1938702116556501295..comments2024-03-28T01:21:42.827-05:00Comments on Love SoftBums Blog: Where have I been!?Softbumsmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05071387422084546753noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post-53213171014191592722012-05-16T10:37:52.599-05:002012-05-16T10:37:52.599-05:00I think this resonates with a lot of us! My husban...I think this resonates with a lot of us! My husband and I found ourselves in the same situation recently...OVERWHELMED by it all (2 kids, 2 dogs, a house, 2 full-time jobs and a never-ending to-do list). The stress really takes you down doesn't it? We're fighting for US as well but it is not easy...hoping that we make it out of this stage of life TOGETHER. ((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post-62704467298720994012012-05-16T05:16:58.562-05:002012-05-16T05:16:58.562-05:00Definitely appreciate the honesty and reality of t...Definitely appreciate the honesty and reality of this post. I think a lot of couples go through this with young children, especially if both are working, whether in or out of home, and especially if any of the kids have special needs, whether it be physical or emotional. I realized recently that my husband and I seemed to be more roomates than spouses. There were days, weeks maybe, where we didn't even kiss or touch each other. In the past 24 months (and we've only been married two years), 18 have been without intimacy. I have been so busy with babies, so tired, so consumed with worry and stress that I have not been a wife...at least, not a good one. And to his credit, he has not complained. He has done most the cooking, cleaning, baby changing, all after working 10-12 hour days, because I've been either pregnant, busy nursing, or injured in between all that time. I'm sure that after a fun, passionate, and deeply moving courtship, this is not the marriage he had in mind. And so, it is a decision made every day, not to be content, as you say, but to live fully experiencing the highs and lows of marriage and family with a heart of love and gratitude... not only to be a good mother, but especially, to be a good wife and the best of myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post-24855883541770886302012-05-15T17:11:02.387-05:002012-05-15T17:11:02.387-05:00My husband and I fell "out of love" at o...My husband and I fell "out of love" at one point too. You two have the right attitude! :) If you aren't sure HOW to fight for your relationship and feel like you're going in circles, I strongly recommend Retrouvaille: www.retrouvaille.org<br /><br />A year AFTER we were DIVORCED we finally did a Retrouvaille weekend, and it was exactly what we needed to get back on track. Within a few months we were remarried, and a few months after that we were happily buying a stash of newborn diapers. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post-12226934246022979472012-05-15T15:41:26.740-05:002012-05-15T15:41:26.740-05:00I just wanted to say thank you for putting this ou...I just wanted to say thank you for putting this out there. I feel as if I have written this post myself. I, too, am in the same situation as you, managing being a mom to 2 small kids as well as running my own business and all the everyday things that we endure. I have grown to hate my marriage and the D word crosses my mind every day. Do I "love" my husband, of course. But, I don't know that I can say I am "in love" with him. Or, maybe I am, but it's such a deep dirty rut I just can't get out of it to see where I am. <br /><br />Anyway, sparing details... I just wanted to say thank you. It is comforting to know there are many more out there going through the same thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8561870832882438930.post-71231541814662524742012-05-15T15:13:57.556-05:002012-05-15T15:13:57.556-05:00I think this has a lot to do with having young chi...I think this has a lot to do with having young children and being in a building part of life. My husband and I work opposite schedules, have two young kids as wekk, and I sometimes have these realizations that we haven't put our relationship anywhere in the top 5 in life, too. We're working on it, too, and while everyone says before you go in that there will be struggles, experiencing them is hard. Good for you for deciding to fight for what you want.Caroline M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03835168287662244986noreply@blogger.com